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Shut up or Speak up?

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Often seen, or at least heard by my nearest and dearest, as overbearing, opinionated and a tete-de-bois (aka stubborn), I have also been accused of being too loud, too forceful,…

chameleon

What’s my womb pain got to do with self-esteem?

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Woooooo, I am not only menstruating today, but I feel a deep womb-pain that needs to be voiced.  If there is one thing that is coming from deep within today…

woman leaving the nest

The pain of the umbilical cord being cut when kids fly the nest

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I am feeling the sharp and “takes your breath away” pain that arises not just with birthing our babes, but with letting go of the umbilical cord to our children who…

Is “Get Shit Done” (GSD) the modern day woman’s disease?

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This week I felt my skin tighten, my hands go up in despair and my heart wrench again as I read an article from yet another “up and coming modern…

diamonds and moon shape

Why Mother’s Day made me angry and why I am selling my jewellery!

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Yesterday was Mother’s Day and as a mother of many (6 in fact!) I have a love-hate relationship with Mother’s Day. Some years I have gone in to the day…

fire

How to stop being the dutiful woman and live with more freedom

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Last night I had a bonfire.  It was to end my proverbial Tour of Duty of being dutiful wife and mother. How did this come about? Well a simple “domestic”…

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You make me feel like a natural woman

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Do you know the Aretha Franklin song “Natural Woman”?  Listen to it here.   My favourite lyrics are these: When my soul was in the lost-and-found You came along to…

Dawna Mar

How to feel inspired when you feel darn tired!

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Flicking this morning through the gorgeous book by Dawna Markova, “I will not die an unlived life” which I used years ago in a women’s group I ran, I was…

vibe attracts your tribe

Is your name stopping you from being fully fabulous?

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This morning, I was prompted by a woman online to fully claim my name.  So what did I take that to mean and what did that make me think of? The…

howling wolf

Where has all my female-ness gone? Unleash your “wild” thing!

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Where have all the flowers gone?  A song from way-back just popped into my head as I wondered what muse would flow out of me today?  In fact I don’t…

happy place

Your SOUL purpose & finding your “happy place” in the world

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When women are racing around attending to everyone’s needs but their own, sometimes they lose sight of their soul purpose or the hunger pains of their soul, which are either…

angry woman 2

3 ways to be beautiful even when you’re having an emotional melt-down

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I exploded this week – in fact I had a huge emotional melt-down!   It appeared out of nowhere as a sudden unexplained outburst at the drop of a hat –…

Daphne Selfe

3 ways to radiate extraordinary beauty even when you are getting older.

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Reading an issue of MindFood yesterday (one of my Christmas pressies to self) I came across a title, “I don’t want to grow younger.  I want to grow my beautiful.”…

woman dancing

Can SELF CARE stop you aging? Yes! Here’s why.

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As you know I’m all about learning the art of Ultimate Self Care and helping others do the same. Why?  Because I was super-woman for many years and got burnt-out,…

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How chocolate can make you more productive without burning out!

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Common to women is that we all have the “I can’t wait to get out with the girls and socialise phase” and the “I want to crawl back into my…

seed

The pain and joys of being mum

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Isn’t motherhood often difficult?  It brings us the deepest joys and often the deepest lows.  Some reflections in poetry today and the intense feelings that we can feel as mothers,…

spring rituals

5 Spring seasonal rituals to help you through your seasonal soul struggle

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I was shocked this morning with a “bolt” out of the blue.  Namely an unusual reminder that at this time of the year, I seem to struggle in my soul….

mother daughter

Ultimate self-care – The importance of “mothering” yourself

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My youngest son turned 13 today.  It’s my “birthing day” and his “birthday”.   2 great reasons to celebrate. But it also brings to the fore some of my own…

independent woman

Strong independent women learning to “receive”

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I saw this great facebook pic yesterday of a woman desperately wanting to have some “me time” and then she reminded herself that she was a capable, independent woman! It…

windy arrow

What’s tough for you right now? How to turn tragedy into traction.

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What’s your “tragedy” in your life to date and how has that created some fabulous traction for you? No, this is not about denying you of the grief that may…

healing

Body rituals that break the grief recycle of past hurts

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Body rituals are powerful cleansers.  They can also be a deeply profound experience – moving your emotional state from something difficult to something with more ease, and  getting you out…

Depression has many guises.  It can be

The prison of insignificance – keys for the prison door

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The prison of insignificance  – A life sentence of depression and keys to finding your freedom “Depression has many guises.  It can be the mask of loneliness, the veil of insignificance,…

grieving woman art

What if my grief was my gold?

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Grief…We’re told to get over it, get through it, get to the end of it or to get a grip on it (or ourselves) should we veer off in uncontrollable…

overwhelm

10 reasons for women to get out of overwhelm, juggling and imbalance

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Are you a woman who’s experiencing overwhelm, juggling, exhaustion and imbalance? Here’s 10 reasons for YOU to get out of stress, overwhelm and heartache and get YOUR spark back. Why…

our of order

Brain fuzz, forgetfulness and the fabulousness of brain re-wiring at mid-life!

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Are you a capable mid-life woman whose brain sometimes feels like fuzz? Being in my late 40’s, still menstruating but feeling like I’m transitioning into some new territory, I was…

own rhythms

Slowing down. Who me? What would others think?

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  I’m so in love with this quote that really talks about living to the beat of our own drum.  Going at a pace that suits us, not someone else’s….

waiting for change

With heartaches & pain, is acceptance or change easier?

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My partner, the other night, came out with something profound. “Sometimes it’s easier to change, than accept the situation.” Referring to the situation where his wife left him suddenly for another…

soulmate

How to meet (or leave!) your soul mate! (Part One!)

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I have this uncanny ability to meet soul mates. In fact I’ve met 2, perhaps even 4!  But let me start with No. 1! The day I met my first…

blue heart

Do women really want to be in love?

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Do you think women say that want to be in love, but truthfully they don’t really want love, relationship and intimacy and what that takes, or they’ve simply given up…

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10 reasons for women to get out of overwhelm, juggling and imbalance

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Are you a woman who’s experiencing overwhelm, juggling, exhaustion and imbalance? Here’s 10 reasons for YOU to get out of stress, overwhelm and heartache and get YOUR spark back. Why…

mothers doing everything

5 ways to be a happy and energised mum again!

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“When you become a mother, YOU go out the door!” is what I heard her say with her body looking a little exhausted and her eyes looking a little despairingly…

thUDM1C1LY

Are you emotionally curvy or a flat-liner?

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We are being told to embrace our womanly curves, but when it comes to emotions, we are expected to be constant – or I call it a “straight line” or…

A-beautiful-woman-walks

How to beat exhaustion and walk to the beat of your own rhythms

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Having sat in traffic for 2 hours yesterday and also noticed my ϋber-full diary especially in the past couple of weeks with packing boxes for a house-move and kids sports…

Worth the weight

How to stop wallowing in your weight / wait

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Having struggled many years ago – in fact a good 11 years of my teenage and early adult life, I struggled with intense body loathing and self hate, not to…

the foundations of a confident woman

The 5 top diseases of modern women and how to heal them

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I may be wrong in calling them diseases, especially in the sense of medical terminology, but here are what I consider the top diseases (as in not at ease!) of…

shattered wine glass

Feeling shattered or struggling? 5 question to ask yourself to “fill up your glass” again

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I am noticing how many people around me lately are feeling shattered to the core, as if they’ve been rocked by “deep-to-the-soul” overwhelm and despair. To me, it’s not about…

discover your sexy

Hot secrets for you to reignite your inner sexy even if you are single or feel like you are

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Has it been a while since you felt sexy, sassy and loving the lusciousness of an intimate relationship? Want your spark back, whether you are single or feel like you…

half eaten cake

Are you nibbling the crumbs or having your cake and eating it?

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Are you nibbling the crumbs or ‘having your cake and eating it’ in life?  How often do you accept less than what you can have on your plate – literally…

walls you build

Your “running away” or ending something may not be an act of cowardice

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Running away from something or someone is not necessarily an act of cowardice. It may in fact be your greatest act of courage. “My relationship finished and I ended up…

well of grief

Run from grief or love it?

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When we are sitting in the “well of loss” – otherwise known as grief – we feel it, not just in our bodies, but in our souls. For some, it…

accept myself

Why dealing with conflict is easy for someBODY BEAUTIFUL

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Many people find it difficult to be the one that “rocks the boat”, creates some waves or perhaps even causes a storm. Why?  It is not because they don’t have…

own rhythms

Is life too hectic? 5 ways to find your own rhythm in life

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A real party stopper is when someone asks you what you have done this week and your answer is “Not much!”  Why is it that we measure our success on…

share your secret

Got a secret that needs sharing?

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When we “keep a secret”, it sits within us. There are many things that can happen with this “secret”. We stuff it down with food or other substances. It weighs…

me time

Are you superwoman doing WE time, more than ME time?

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Imagine if having “me time” were the “cure-all” for your health, women’s issues, sanity, family life, relationships and even your career.  In fact, the more I think about this notion,…

hotness and irritation

The beauty of “break-outs” & “melt-downs” in your body

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Breaking out in rashes, pimples or other irritations, fire-ing up inside with menopausal symptoms, itching, diarrhoea-ing, redness, throbbing, vomiting…or perhaps having a melt-down with other explosive body symptoms? What is…

woman breathing

Stop holding your breath for something “better” in your life

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I’ll catch my breath, when I  finally get that stuff sorted.” was what I heard the woman say. My response was how about she “breathe first, then the things will…

mirror mirror

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall, Who is the fairest of us all?

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Many women have a distorted image of who they think they are, how their bodies are and what their life’s challenges look like. Perhaps, as a woman, YOU are looking…

watoto kids

You are not forgotten, even when you feel unnoticed or insignificant

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Ever feel that people don’t notice what a a great woman, mother, wife, partner, daughter, worker, …you are? Ever since I was a child, and even before I knew where…

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Why I am lusting after “baby pink.” Honour your lust for colour!

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Lately I have been lusting after “baby pink”.  This is not a common occurrence for me, but it’s a colour that my body has been “desiring” lately.  It reminds me…

be you

3 ways we actually say “no” to improved self-esteem & body confidence

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The outside world – media, diet, beauty, gym, fashion and other industries tell us how to be “confident, sexy, successful, desirable…” They want us to “buy into” that negative stuff….

fears of intimacy

5 ways we sabotage love and intimacy – something we dearly crave for, yet perhaps deeply fear

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Let me share a personal secret. I have been an expert at “keeping intimacy at bay” for much of my life and it is an area of my life that…

stepmother

To mother or not to mother – acknowledgement for you “mother figures” out there!

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\A comment at a party recently threw me!  When a woman, knowing a little of my history, hinted that she knew I had six children, abruptly asked, “So did you…

What the doctors don’t tell us about women’s health and body issues…

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We have an amazing privilege to live in our bodies, and “giving ourselves over to the experts” may not provide the solutions to our woes.  In my work with women,…

candy bar

How to stop pigging out in the pantry, and practise soulful self-care instead

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Get yourself of our the “chaotic eating /non eating cycle” once and for all! Eating is an emotional experience – in a positive and negative light. Staying stuck in weight…

3 reasons why you shouldn’t give up and throw in the towel yet

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Given up on what your soul is crying out for – like a peaceful family, a fabulous relationship, a service you wish to offer the world or a creative dream…

7 common mistakes women make to make themselves less desirable

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Having had a few years being single and also years of being in a marriage where I didn’t allow myself to be that “desirable”, I have noticed many mistakes women…

How to stop falling flat on your face from juggling too many roles and responsibilities.

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As women we are multi-jugglers without a doubt.  We put an expectation on ourselves, and therefore teach others, that we will be there “come hell or high water” for them,…

How to get what you want in your life

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Let me help you learn to listen to your body/spirit/gut so you can have peace around your decisions and get what you want in life. I simply love to help…

5 keys to breaking free from your cage of “not-good-enoughness”

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Yes, people can “put us in a box” but often it is we (yes YOU and I !) that cage ourselves into that prison or cage called “not-good-enoughness.”   If…

Caring too much (Uber-caring) and being “NICE”

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  Inbuilt within me is an undeniable urge, desire and need to care about others’ well-being.   I care.  I am compassionate.  I want the best for people.  I want to…

People – Pleasing position or self respect position? It’s your choice!

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People pleasing usually has the connotation of someone running ragged around others – filling up the other person’s “needs and wants tank” over and above their own. It has the…

Still thinking you are not enough?

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I love what Marianne has to say in this video with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday. Firstly her point about many people “wanting to be stars” (2mins 20 point of…

Dealing with the s***

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This week I have encountered many people have been dealing with a lot of s***.  My acronym for s*** is this: S…eriously H…ard I…nviting me to hide under the duvet…

Chocolat

A “Chocolat” moment and how a simple ribbon can open up our connection with others

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This morning I had another “Chocolat” moment. You remember the movie “Chocolat” where the woman and her daughter arrive into the very conservative French town and she opens up a…

How to feel at peace, when you are not feeling peaceful

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Interesting kind of day today with not a lot of things going “right” and me noticeably feeling a little frustrated, annoyed and edgy. A client didn’t arrive.  I couldn’t gain…

Sometimes we have to cut our own leash to have the life we dream of!

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One thing I am passionate about and gutsy at (or so I’ve been told!) is expanding my own horizons and taking leaps of faith into the unknown.  Therefore I can’t…

Hiding out in your creative cave?

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Today I coined a new phrase “Creative hibernation” – you know that experience of hiding in your creative cave – having abandoned your creative pursuits, found yourself too busy to…

My first ever tattoo

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Big news. I am getting a tattoo.  Actually no, it’s not me, it’s my gorgeous man that is getting one this afternoon to celebrate his new residency and new beginnings…

Life changes that open the door to us loving our body and life more

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Many of us don’t like the changes that occur in our body when life changes something. Consider the woman who loses a breast through mastectomy – not a body change…

Perfect as you are in all of your unique colour and glory

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Have a POD – Point Of Difference, rather than trying to be yet another green pea, which is very boring and takes a lot of effort. Just be happy expressing…

Lighten up and get things moving – how to feel lighter…and delighted at the same time

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Feeling heavy?  Not just on the scales I mean,but also heavy full stop – stuck, bogged down, noose around the neck, pit in your stomach type stuff, going no-where or…

Soul nourishing with the right exercise, not the wrong exercise

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Recently in my women’s group, we looked at our wants, desires and urges for 2014. We termed it Soul Nourishment and looked at activities, rituals, people, events, things…..that help nourish…

Knowing how great we are opens the doors to a great 2014

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We cannot imagine great possibilities and manifest an abundance of things in bucket loads opening up in our lives (rather than teaspoonfuls that we often ask for!)  till we really…

Outrageous Possibilities rather than New Year’s resolutions

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I don’t make New Year’s resolutions.  Goals are also not really my thing either as often we give up half way through and then feel a failure.  Instead, at the…

New Years’ resolutions

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It’s year of the horse?  What are you plans for this year? As a year of the horse-born, I am excited about the ride this year (2014) where we will…

Frolic in your sea of difference

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“Your greatest success is frolic-ing in the sea of difference, not floating in the sea of sameness” Too many people buy into culture’s pressures to look, be and do the…